153) Stuff Happens

Stuff Happens

For sure, life can have it share of obstacles and setbacks. You might lose a job. That star employee is now a competitor. That great client might decide to go another direction. What you hope is the love of your life, might not feel the same.

Before you chalk these challenges up to “oh well, that’s life,” stop to consider the real possibility that these obstacles and setbacks are really not bad things at all.

Maybe, just maybe they’re really steppingstones to something better. Perhaps, just perhaps they’re a foothold to what you were aspiring to anyway.

Think about it. Without that J-O-B you can now embark on something that inspires you. And competition makes you hungrier and more innovative. And an old flame, now extinguished, could open the door for the person really meant for you.

In short, stuff happens but it might not be that bad after all.


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154) Bad Luck? Good Luck? Who Knows?

Bad Luck? Good Luck? Who Knows?

One day, a farmer had a wild stallion run off. His neighbors remarked, “Oh, what bad luck!” The farmer responded, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”

Later the stallion returned with a herd of wild horses. The neighbors remarked, “Wow, what good luck!” The farmer responded, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”

A day later the farmer’s son broke his leg as he was thrown from a horse. His neighbors remarked, “Oh what bad luck!” The farmer responded, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”

A week later, the army came by to enlist all able-bodied young men for war. When they saw the boy’s broken leg, they moved on … and the army moved on to a battle that no one survived.

Events in your life don’t stand on their own. They are each just scenes in a lifelong movie. And with each remember, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”

155) Seeking Conversation

Seeking Conversation

Why do you go to networking events? There are probably lots of potential reasons. And those reasons change from event to event and from one time to another.

One reason you don’t go to networking events, however, is to stand by your lonesome and quietly sip your coffee or whatever. Of course not.! You’re there to engage in conversation.

This begs the question:  How do you seek out people to talk to at events?

Know this: It is much easier to engage one person in conversation than a whole group.

So, when you arrive at an event or whenever you find yourself without someone to talk to, look for that person standing alone.

You know what? Chances are, that person is hoping for someone just like you to engage them in conversation. So, at next networking event, look for that person and go make a friend.


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156) Be The Resource

Be the Resource

Would you like to be known as a generous connector? Of course, you would.

Would you like to be considered a source of information and opportunities? That’d be great too.

How do you make this happen? It’s simple.

Tell everyone you know that if they need anything … anything at all … to let you know. Clients. Information. Staff. Vendors. Whatever.

Tell them that you have a vast and growing network.  And, while you cannot guarantee it can help them, let them know you would like to try.

And whether or not you’re able to succeed, this will give you an opportunity to tap into your network and find ways to help others.

From this, in time, you will get the reputation of being a wonderful resource. And this is something that will serve to attract people to want to connect with you, thereby growing your network.


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157) The Poison Of Resentment

The Poison of Resentment

In 1994, a member of the media asked the newly elected president of South Africa, Nelson Mandela, if he’d hold a grudge against those who were responsible for his decades of wrongful imprisonment.

Mandela calmly replied “NO,” and then continued with:

Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”

While you might not have been wrongfully incarcerated for the better part of your adult life, no doubt you’ve been wronged somewhere along the way. In school. In your community. In your career. Whatever it was, let it go.

Holding on to anger won’t change the past. Hoping for bad karma will never fix how you might have been wronged. The only true way forward is to forgive. Plus, moving on will allow you to free up energies and head space for more productive pursuits.


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158) Don’t Act Desperate

Don't Act Desperate

People want to be associated with helping you succeed. They really do. However, they do not want the responsibility of ensuring whether or not you survive professionally.

Think about it. If you act as if every networking relationship will make or break you, you’ll likely have a lonely networking existence.

Remember, building great relationships is a powerful means of advancing a professional career or business. These connections can lead you to other great people, enlighten you with invaluable information, and open your life to wonderful opportunities.

This, however, is not a magic elixir. Great relationships don’t happen overnight. And even once you have them, you can’t expect that they’ll come through for you on command.

So, if you need to close a deal at the last minute to hit a sales quota or require 11th hour heroics to get that promotion, don’t expect networking to help.


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159) In The Face Of Tradition

In The Face of Tradition

Three women – Jessica Stubitsch, Morgan Van Lanen, and Erin DiMeglio – have one thing in common; they were each passionate about the sport they played and, as a result, they did not allow social norms to stand in their way.

  • Stubitsch played hockey at Northern Illinois University as a goalie for the men’s team.
  • Van Lanen was a member of the Bark River-Harris High School wrestling team.
  • DiMeglio was a third-string quarterback for the South Plantation High School.

Despite what might be the conventional wisdom that proclaims that “girls can’t play hockey, wrestle or play football” these three were undeterred.

But social norms don’t stop with sports. They are all around just waiting for you to defy them. Don’t allow the mindsets of yesterday to dictate your future.

Rather, follow your heart and passionately do what you want to do.


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160) Don’t Foul Up The Follow Up

Don't Foul Up the Follow Up

Networking events are wonderful. They really are. The conversations can be exhilarating. And the whole experience productive.  

But you risk squandering the whole experience if you fail to follow up or follow through.

Networking is not just idle conversation. Embedded in those conversations are vows and commitments. If you pledged to reconnect, do so. If you offered to introduce them, make it happen. If you indicated you would send them something, get it sent.

Know this, very few people follow through on what they say they are going to do. That’s a sad, but true reality.

Given that, if you are committed to following up and following through, you immediately elevate yourself above a significant portion of the networking population.

So, don’t foul up your follow up. Do what you say you’re going to do.


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161) The Cloak Of Invincibility

The Cloak of Invincibility

Everyone knows that feeling of apprehension you get when walking into a room with lots of people and only a few you know relatively well.

Your breathing quickens. Your muscles tense. You can feel sweat starting to build.

While there is no comfort in knowing this is perfectly natural, take comfort in knowing you can ease this tension. Here’s how:

As you enter, remind yourself that networking is about helping others and you are there to do just that. After all, you are there to share a plethora of experience and a vast network.

As such, this mindset gives you a cloak of invincibility. It transforms you from being a stranger that the room may judge and potentially reject into someone there to perform a heroic act. Afterall, through your network you have the power to make someone’s day, if not completely change their world. And everyone will welcome that.


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162) Attention: Important Meeting

Attention: Important Meeting

Sound advice for successful networking is to treat each and every encounter with others as if it were an important business meeting. Why? Because it is.

Any person you have the chance to interact with has tremendous potential. Each and every one is a gateway to other useful contacts. They are the key – whether direct or indirect – to lots of referrals. And they are conduits to information sources that can take you to new heights.

While they may never say it (or even know it), these people believe that you will treat their contacts, referrals and information sources the same way you treat them.

So, do yourself a huge favor; treat everyone with kindness and respect. Be attentive when others speak. And make them feel as if they matter. Because they really do.


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