The most effect way of tickling someone is to sneak up on them and do it without them knowing it’s coming. While I don’t advocate doing this to a stranger, you likely have a loved one in your life where this is useful advice.
Just like tickling someone else, your acts of altruism are most effective when you sneak up on the person to present it.
Your spouse or significant other is romantically moved when you shower them with cards and flowers when they least expect them.
Your compliments have a special meaning when you give them without any sort of solicitation.
And, the referrals you give, the information you share, and the business contacts you create for others go from ordinary gestures to extraordinary acts of altruism when you do them without any sort of prompting. So, don’t wait to be asked to do anything. Just sneak up and do it without them knowing it’s coming.
Frank Agin, author and founder of AmSpirit Business Connections, shares a quote from the book Be Connected by @TerryBean and reflects on how helping others sets their subconscious mind searching to help you in return.
Everyone is generous to one degree or another, at some point in time. And that includes you, right?
However, when you are looking to serve those around you through the goods and services you sell, this is not one of those generous moments. It’s great business, for sure. You should always strive to serve your customers and clients well.
It’s just not altruistic. You see, no matter how noble your profession or how passionate you are towards it, if you’re compensated for your efforts, even in the slightest way, your gesture becomes transactional. At that point, much, if not all, of the generosity is stripped away.
True altruism is doing something beneficial for another with the all-important caveat that you have absolutely no expectation of getting something in return, except for perhaps that warm and fuzzy feeling that comes with the gesture.
build a network you need to give to others, which isn’t always easy. But, the
starting point for giving to others is being thoughtful. You know, being considerate of the feelings
of others (whether you know them or not) and finding ways you can have a
positive impact on their lives.
his book, Winning Without Intimidation, Bob Burg indicates that while being
thoughtful does not always come naturally, it’s a simple idea that requires no
maintains that being thoughtful is nothing more than a habit and encompasses
such occasional and basic acts as:
a door open for someone;
someone a well-deserved compliment; or
a bit farther from the entrance.
of these is simple and represents only a tiny portion of an almost endless list
of thoughtful acts. If you focus on being thoughtful towards others, eventually
it becomes a habit. From there, giving more to others will quickly follow.