In the tale, Stone Soup, stingy villagers have no interest in sharing their food with anyone but their own.
However, when a peddler offers to share some stone soup with them (essentially rocks in a pot of boiling water), one by one, the villagers begin to share – a head of cabbage here, some salt beef there – and before long a pot of delicious “stone” soup awaits them.
This tale suggests that generosity and altruism are contagious. And many social science experiments have demonstrated that this is true. But people don’t just give; they are somehow moved and inspired to do so.
The takeaway is that you have the power to inspire generosity in others through your own generosity. Any simple gesture can be contagious – a simple referral, an introduction, or just sharing valuable information. This will inspire your network to give. Give to you. Give to others. And create generosity that cascades forward across time.
Here’s a reality: You cannot control your subconscious mind. Sensations whip in and out. And it processes hundreds and hundreds of bits of information every moment of every day.
Although you lack control over these unconscious feelings, you’re not completely helpless. As Steve Gutzler, consultant and author of Emotional Intelligence for Personal Leadership, shares, “There is a 24/7 battlefield for your mind — your thoughts. Be intentional, control your thoughts and what you put in mind.”
No, you have no control over the internal workings of your mind and what subliminal cues it takes from the world. You do, however, have complete control over what you put into it. You can choose to fill your mind with positive thoughts and aspirations. You can choose to associate with uplifting people. You can choose what you listen to and read. And, you can choose to rationalize away dark thoughts.
There is a never-ending battle within your mind. Do all you can to allow positivity to win.
For centuries, sailors whisked around the oceans and seas, with the shoreline clearly insight. While there were still risks, this vocation offered them an exceptional livelihood relative to their “land-bound” contemporaries. Despite this, seldom did any of these sailors ever achieved great fame or fortune.
A select few, however, were not content with hugging the coast. Rather, they were endowed with an uncommon courage that inspired them to venture out. Push beyond the horizon. And lose the sight of shore.
Because of this exploration, these brave sailors became rich and have gone down in history as discovering new oceans, fruitful lands, and interesting people.
Today, the same rules apply. There is a decent living working hard and playing it safe. But the real fame and fortune go to those willing to venture out and do something bold. If you want to discover that new ocean, whatever that might be, you need to have the courage to lose sight of shore.
Everyone knows that feeling of apprehension you get when walking into a room with lots of people and only a few you know relatively well.
Your breathing quickens. Your muscles tense. You can feel sweat starting to build.
While there is no comfort in knowing this is perfectly natural, take comfort in knowing you can ease this tension. Here’s how:
As you enter, remind yourself that networking is about helping others and you are there to do just that. After all, you are there to share a plethora of experience and a vast network.
As such, this mindset gives you a cloak of invincibility. It transforms you from being a stranger that the room may judge and potentially reject into someone there to perform a heroic act. Afterall, through your network you have the power to make someone’s day, if not completely change their world. And everyone will welcome that.
Frank Agin talks with the hosts of the Women Your Mother Warned You About podcast – Gina Trimarco & Rachel Pitts – about the evolution of their relationship. Check out their podcast at https://womenyourmotherwarnedyouabout.com/
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