In life, no one is undefeated. Every sports team has endured a loss. Every notable achiever can point to a disappointing stretch on the road to greatness. Every relationship, no matter how wonderful it might be, has endured a rocky patch or two.
Your life is no different. While you hope to have a career, business or life that continually trends upward, just like the stock market, occasionally you need to give back some gains.
When these moments hit, take solace in the fact that everyone has these moments. Everyone! So, don’t be afraid to acknowledge your failings. Don’t shy away from admitting that you could have done better.
In short, have the courage to fail. And do so with a degree of humility and a resolve to improve from the experience. In the end, this candor will draw others to you, making you more connected and better equipped to move forward on your journey of success.
No doubt, you want more. More money. A nicer car. Improved opportunities. Greater understanding and insight. Additional wonderful contacts upon which to build your business and career. You want more.
And that’s okay. You’re no different from everyone else on the planet. Wanting more is a fundamental principle of the human condition. Everyone wants more. The only people who consistently get it, however, are those with the courage to go after it.
Courage! The courage to confidently walk into a new networking event for the first time. Courage! The courage to engage a complete stranger in conversation. Courage! The courage to quietly listen, even though you have much to say. Courage! The courage to, in time, ask for what you need in terms of contacts, information and opportunities.
If you want more, it takes courage. You’d be completely amazed as to what awaits you on the other side of 90 seconds of courage.
Growing up, Travis Roy had one goal: To play Division I college hockey like his father. In the fall of 1995, his dreams were realized as he enrolled at Boston University on a scholarship to play hockey for the Terriers.
Unfortunately, 11 seconds into the first shift of his collegiate career, Roy took an odd fall headlong into the boards, cracking his fourth and fifth cervical vertebra. This paralyzed him from the neck down. His college career and hockey dream were over.
However, he vowed that it would not end his life. Roy went on to graduate from Boston University in four years. He became an author. He became a sought-after motivational speaker. And he became a tireless advocate for people with spinal cord injuries.
Travis Roy’s story offers a lesson. Yes, life will hand you setbacks. It might even give you tragedies to deal with. Despite that, don’t stop forging ahead and making a great impact on the world.
Frank Agin, host of Networking Rx, shares an experience trying to connect two people and makes the point that you never know what can become of these connections, so have the courage to lean into them.
is not an endless succession of forward progress. While you may enjoy success,
at some point or another you will also encounter frustrating challenges and
disappointing setbacks. It is during these moments of hardship that you have the
greatest opportunity to establish your personal brand and build your network.
You see, when you
stare down frustrating challenges and disappointing setbacks with an attitude
of determination, you establish yourself as courageous. This draws others
There is little
question that people love an underdog. And, they can’t help but rally around
one who is battling to overcome some sort of setback or hardship. So, by
demonstrating an attitude of courageous determination, others want to draw from
this strength, and they hope to take inspiration from it. In any event, they
cannot help but want to get to know you better and cannot help but want to get
to like you more.