During the 2019 TEDx program in Detroit, co-organizer Terry Bean briefly took the stage. In the allotted few minutes he shared this one big idea: We all have the ability to cast a positive stone, creating ripples that benefit others.
In addition, he also shared these eight ideas for casting positive stones.
Hold the door for someone;
Celebrate important milestones with the people you love;
Smile, or better yet, make someone else smile;
Lend an ear by being there for those who need you;
Shine the light on people doing excellent work;
Pay it forward with something as simple as buying someone a cup of coffee;
Connect the people you know with the people they need to know; and,
Bean’s list is not just a simple one; it’s also a list of little things that you can do each and every day to create positive ripples in the world.
Every relationship is like a bank account. Everything you do (or don’t do, for that matter) either contributes to the relationship or draws from it.
Positive interaction (such as providing a favor or giving a compliment) tends to add to the account. Negative interaction (such as a confrontation or missing an appointment) tends to create withdrawals.
If your relationship with a particular person is strong, the account is flush. This relationship has been marked by mostly positive interactions.
On the other hand, if your relationship is merely neutral, the account has a zero balance. The interactions in this relationship are relatively equally mixed between positive and negative, or there may be no interactions at all.
If, however, your relationship is strained or worse, the account is overdrawn to some extent. The relationship has been largely marked by negative interaction.
Whether a relationship account is flush, overdrawn or somewhere in between, you need to remember that relationships are bank accounts that you need to manage.