In his acclaimed book, Clicksand, professional relationship expert and entrepreneur Bill Troy shares the three conditions for a relationship to exist.
First, the person needs to be someone with whom you want to have a relationship. Second, the someone needs to be open to meeting someone new. And, third, you must create enough rapport with that person in order for the relationship to start and flourish.
As Troy points out, you only have control over two of these three conditions. You can be willing, and you can create rapport. However, you cannot control whether someone wants to have a relationship with you.
And that’s reality. Just because there’s someone new and interesting around you, doesn’t mean they are ripe for you to have a relationship with. Personal or professional. And if they aren’t interested, you are best to move on. Devote your time and energy to building relationships with those who are as keen about you as you are about them.